My Experience with Friends
I didn’t notice how difficult it was to make friends until 5th grade when, for the first time, I didn’t really have any. Before then people would just be my friend. One girl even asked my mom for a play date with me. In the fourth grade, I remember following around these two girls who I wanted to be friends with. They eventually asked if I wanted to join them and then instant friendship. Now in the fifth grade I moved to a new school were everyone else knew each other and I didn’t. I spent the majority of the year hiding from people anyway. However I did make one friend on the tail end of my fifth grade year. We would text a lot and hung out a few times. Our parents became friends which was how it all started. In sixth and seventh grades I didn’t have any friends either. I would ask to sit next to these girls during lunch every day. I was kind of lonely. But in eighth grade I became friends with two girls from art club. We hung out all year and I finally had people to sit with at lunch and people to talk to during school.
The first two years of high school was spent hanging out with the two girls from eighth grade. We became really good friends and I miss them to this day. Then before my junior year of high school, I moved again. I didn’t know anyone for a while but then I began doing color guard and met my best friend and she introduced me to her friends. We hung out, all four of us, senior year. We even stayed close until our sophomore year of college. But as time went on we drifted a part, each doing our own thing. The only friend I kept out of that was my best friend. We have been friends for almost five years now. She’s like another sister to me. Sometimes it’s difficult because we have trouble communicating but we always seem to work it out. I’m glad I have her still.
I have a few anxiety disorders. It’s been difficult trying to make new friends in college. It was a little easier having color guard but now I stopped doing that. I’m not sure how or if I’ll be making new friends.
Making friends when you have a mental disorder can be difficult but you have to keep being persistent and you’ll eventually find the right people for you. Your friends should be people who accept you and who want to see you be successful in your life. You shouldn’t change yourself to fit in with people. People who don’t want to see the real you don’t deserve your time.
Tips on How to Make Friends
Here are some things to do to try to make some friends.
Put Yourself Out There
Start a conversation with someone in one of your classes or at work. Don’t stress out about what to say, just give someone a compliment or say something about the class or work environment to break the ice. The conversation could end there or go into a more in-depth talk.
Join a club, organization, or help group
If you’re in college, or school in general, then pick a club or organization that interests you. That way you’ll have things in common with the other people. Joining a self-help group or therapy group can help you meet people and get yourself feeling more comfortable around people in a safe environment.
If you are having trouble meeting someone in person, then go onto social media and strike up a conversation with someone. You can also use forums for things like mental health. That way you’ll find people with common interests or conditions.
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